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Avoiding Germs: Some Tricks & Myths
Posted:Apr 2, 2019 7:06 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2019 1:19 pm
If you try to avoid germs by using your foot to flush public toilets or your knuckle to press elevator buttons, prepare to be disappointed. In Readers Digest Healthy Living...Here’s what doesn’t work—and what really does—according to hygiene experts.

Using A Paper Toilet Seat Cover
You may feel more comfortable in public restrooms when you can place that thin sheet of paper between the bare toilet seat and your bare behind, but in reality, you might as well sit straight down. Those toilet seat covers, which are often made of tissue paper, are absorbent. Your skin is all the protection you need. Any potentially problematic bacteria you might pick up would have to find a way into your body through an open wound or, more likely, your hands.

The 5-Second Rule
Everyone does it—scoop up a snack, pacifier, or utensil that just the floor and claim that it’s OK thanks to the “five-second rule.” Research shows, however, that this bit of wisdom is a myth. Yes, the longer something stays in contact with a dirty surface, the more bacteria it will pick up. But germs can be picked up in as little as one second, so wash it or toss it—the damage is done.

Using Your Shirt Sleeve To Open A Bathroom Door
Creating a block between a germy door handle and your hands is a good idea, but your own shirt sleeve isn’t idea, says Jessica Pettit with statefoodsafety.. “Using your own clothing, such as a shirt sleeve, to open doors doesn’t actually help you avoid germs, because any bacteria that are on the door handle will just move to your clothing,” she says. “It can hold on to pathogens easily, and the moment your hands brush against the clothing, they will become contaminated.” Your best bet is to use something disposable, like a paper towel, she adds.

Pressing Elevator Buttons With Your Knuckle
Some people, in an effort to avoid bacteria and viruses on public surfaces, will use the back of their hands, forearms, or even elbows to touch surfaces. That’s an admirable effort but not very effective, says Nidhi Ghildayal, PhD, an infectious disease researcher at the University of Minnesota. “The thought process behind this habit is likely that less skin is being exposed to the unwanted germy surface,” she says, “but the back of your hand, just like your front, also has a likelihood of subsequently touching your face or other vulnerable areas. So using the back of your hand may or may not actually be helping you.”

Flushing Public Toilets With Your Feet
“Flush handles do harbour a lot of bacteria,” Ghildayal says, “but it’s partially due to individuals using their feet rather than their hands to flush. The floor and the bottom of your shoes are generally some of the dirtiest parts of a bathroom.” You can skip this precaution because what’s the next thing you’ll do after flushing? That’s right—wash your hands, which is the best way to avoid transferring bugs.
Another rea to skip this habit, says Ghildayal, is that the bacteria you’re trying to avoid are likely already dead. “Gut bacteria don’t thrive for long on the cold, smooth surfaces of public restrooms, such as bathroom fixtures, as this environment is quite different than inside the human body.”

Cleaning With Antibacterial Wipes
Keeping your house clean will help protect you and your family from infectious bugs. However, you may be doing more harm than good if you’re hurriedly wiping down multiple surfaces with one antibacterial wipe. You may end up spreading bacteria around the room if you don’t frequently swap to a fresh wipe; closely the directions and you’ll probably see that the surface should stay wet for four or more minutes after wiping if you want them to clean properly. Plus, some harmful bacteria survive a cursory swipe—they need a more potent solution to knock them .

Wearing Gloves Indoors
Slipping on a pair of gloves to grip potentially grimy handles, doorknobs, or poles may not achieve what you’re hoping. The material is most likely absorbent, and many of the bacteria and viruses you’re coming into contact with may live just as long on fabric gloves as they do on your hand. When you pull them off or put them back on, you’ll still pick up living germs on your bare hands. Even worse: gripping the fingertip of a glove with your mouth to take it off.

Using Hand Sanitizers All The Time
While these gels are handy when you don’t have access to soap and water, too much sanitizing with these products may actually be bad for your health, Ghildayal says. “While many hand sanitizers have been found to be just as effective as hand-washing,” she says, “overuse can cause your natural skin bacteria to be stripped away, and that leaves you more vulnerable to other bacteria.”

Hovering Over The Toilet Seat
Women may think it’s safer to hover over a toilet seat than sit down for fear that bacteria on the seat may stick to your skin when you stand up. They will, but as we’ve already learned, that’s OK. The problem with this habit is that, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and ney Diseases, hovering can make emptying your bladder more difficult. Do that too often, and you could end up with bladder problems.

Are there other things you do to avoid germs?.
Let’s Eliminate Redundant Words & Phrases!
Posted:Mar 23, 2019 10:41 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2019 7:18 am
English is a complicated language. Yet, we continue to make it more difficult by adding extra words to simple phrases. They become common practice, when in fact, they are just extra and unnecessary. Here are some great examples from Readers Digest where we should stop being so extra! Remember, less is more!

Forever and Ever
Did you ever describe someone as droning on and on (and on!) forever and ever? No need to add “and ever” to descriptions of forever. Daily Writing Tips recommends you avoid using the phrase, because forever is, by definition, endless.

New Innovations
According to Oxford Dictionaries, “new” already exists within the definition of innovation—which is a new method, idea, or product. So if you want to win the prize for redundancy, go ahead and describe something as a “fresh new idea innovation product method.”

Blatantly Obvious
According to Grammarist, redundancies are “word overflows.” Blatant and obvious mean the same thing. There’s no need to descriptively modify one term with the other—unless you want a deluge of word overflow, then by all means, go for it!

Please RSVP
You know you should RSVP for parties, but what do the letters stand for? Respond So Verification Promulgates? Actually, it’s a French phrase, excusez-moi. RSVP refers to “Répondez s’il vous plaît,” which translates to “respond if you please.” Adding the “please” is redundant.

Unexpected Surprise
Surprise! All surprises are naturally unexpected. This phrase is redundant, and you’ll often find it used in cases that weren’t, in fact, surprising. Ever hear anyone claim, “What an unexpected surprise!” after they’ve opened your gift? Or when you show up uninvited at dinnertime?

Advance Warning
It’s not really a warning if it doesn’t occur before whatever it is you’re being warned about. The weather centres don’t give warnings about storms that have already moved on. All proper warnings happen in advance.

Sudden Impulse
Trying to have an impulse that’s not sudden. A true impulse can’t be pre-planned. You just have to let it happen—involuntarily according to the dictionary definition. All impulses will be of the sudden sort. Avoid redundancy when describing them.

End Result
Technically, the result (for whatever) will occur at the end (of whatever). The result is the conclusion, the outcome, the final product, the finish. In other words, the result is the end. Feel free to use “result” or “end,” but never both. End redundant results!

Completely Annihilate
When you annihilate something, you cancel it out and make it void. You basically reduce it to nonexistence. You can’t annihilate something more. There’s no need to add “completely.” Richard Norquist at ThoughtCo lists other redundant words that get linked with “completely” like destroyed, filled, and engulfed.

Do you find yourself using more when less would suffice?

Definition of redundant: not or no longer needed or useful; superfluous.
Health Awareness For Women Over 50
Posted:Mar 19, 2019 11:18 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2019 2:06 pm
Turning 50 is an important milestone. According to Readers Digest Best Health, here is some interesting information about what you more of and what to cut out when you reach this age:

It’s Heart Disease, Not Breast Cancer Women To Worry About
Heart disease is actually the No. 1 killer for women. Each , heart and stroke kills 31,000 women in Canada, according to the Heart & Stroke Foundation. Women’s heart health risks increase after menopause, yet just one in five women believe heart disease is the greatest threat to their health.

Heart Attacks Are Different
For women, the most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort, but they are more likely to experience shortness of breath, nausea, vomiting, and back or jaw pain.

You Are Not The Only One
Millions of women can’t control “gotta go” feeling (urge incontinence) or leak during exercise or when they sneeze or cough (stress incontinence), and this risk increases after menopause. It’s common but not normal, and any leaking of urine should be evaluated and treated.

Your Sleeping Position Matters
Stomach and side sleeping positions can cause wrinkles over time, and this effect gets worse as you age thanks to the natural thinning of your skin, according to a study in Aesthetic Surgery Journal. Most sleep wrinkles can be seen on the forehead, lips, and cheeks. If you can tolerate it, sleeping on your back can help slow the wrinkles.

You Really Are What You Eat
Planning a healthy diet ’s rich in good fats, dark leafy greens, berries, and fish. Diets limit carbs can also boost brain health. Your brain needs healthy fats, and fewer sugars and carbs.

Stick To A Bedtime
Most of us haven’t had a real bedtime since hood. However, getting adequate sleep is highly underappreciated as a health issue in women after 50, and setting and sticking to a regular bedtime can help make sure you are getting enough—just like it did when you were a . The Office on Women’s Health in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommends women aged 50 and older get least seven to eight hours of sleep per night.

Vaccinations Aren’t Just For s
Women over 50 should get a flu shot yearly and talk to their doctor about other vaccines, such as those for pneumonia and the zoster (shingles). Your doctor can tell you which vaccines you after 50.

You Can Still Get Pregnant
If you haven’t officially entered menopause, you can still become pregnant, and you may to use birth control. Menopause is diagnosed when a woman hasn’t had her period for 12 straight months for no other obvious reas, and most women enter menopause age 51.

Losing Weight Is Tougher After 50
It’s time to start watching what you eat a little more closely—and maybe an exercise day to your week. (Mindful eating can also help.) As women menopause, their metabolism can slow, making it an uphill battle to lose weight.

Falling Is A Real Risk
It’s not just the elderly who are in danger of falls and fractures: New research finds falls become more common after the age of 40—particularly in women. Falling is more dangerous than you think—it’s one of the leading causes of hospitalization and mortality in the elderly, according to the Centre for Disease Control.

What are some of the additional health risks aren’t listed?
Did you make any lifestyle changes when you turned 50?.

Was It Enough?
Posted:Mar 19, 2019 12:04 am
Last Updated:Jul 13, 2019 2:09 pm
She felt a tear trickling down her cheek and didn’t know whether it was there because of the stress of her current predicament or the memory of what her life had once been.

He stepped toward her and ran his fingers through her hair. He then placed a palm against the nape of her neck. It felt so familiar. They’d done this hundreds of times before. This part had never been their problem. He knew exactly where to place his hands on her body. He knew the exact moment when it was right to lead her to the bedroom.....

For the first time in a miserable week, she felt a smile on her face when she woke up. He was trying to pull his clothes on in the dark.

“Love them and leave them, huh?” she whispered.

“I was trying not to wake you,” he smiled at her.

She felt so warm beneath the comforter and pushed the covers down to her waistline. She looked up at him, squinting into the darkness.

“This is so unfair,” he said frustrated.

“What? I’m just lying here,” she said innocently.

Apparently, that was all it took to persuade him to fall back into bed with her. However, a few seconds later, he suddenly sat up to face her.

“I feel like I need to apologize to you for this,” he admitted.

“What are you talking about?” She tugged at his arm, trying to get him to look at her.

“I feel like I took advantage of you when you are probably in a fragile place.”

“Fragile? Did you really just call me fragile?” she asked.

“No. Not exactly. But, I did wake up wondering, if last night, after everything that has been happening to you lately, was the best time, for you know, us?”

“I am a grown-up. I make my own decisions. And, in case you couldn’t tell, I was definitely a willing participant,” she assured him.

“I guess, I am just surprised that you are willing to fall into the same pattern that has always seemed to make you so unhappy. I don’t want us to do that. It’s also why, I unsuccessfully, tried to find another woman I could care about, half as much, as I do you.”

She pulled the covers back up to her shoulders. “This is not exactly the best time to talk to me about other women,” she admonished him.

“My point is that nothing ever works with anyone else. You and I always fall right back into the same pattern and I am not sure that we should.”

“You really think it’s the same this time?” she inquired.

“Isn’t it always? We have been doing this for years. And it never seems to be enough, so we call it quits. Then we try to see each other just as friends but we can never stay as just friends. Then we fall back to being ‘us’.

“It’s always been enough for me. We have always been good friends. And there’s always been love between us, no matter what phase of our life we are in. That’s enough for me. You are the one who wants something I can’t give you. A mother to your ren. A family you can take care for life. I have never wanted to stand in the way of you getting that,” she assured him.

“Maybe you were so convinced that’s what I wanted, that you chose to push me away,” he commented.

She saw his eyes move to the clock on the nightstand. “I hate that I have to leave now, but I really can’t be late for the meeting.”

“We can talk later when you are finished. But, only if you think we need to talk. Honestly, I woke up feeling happy. You didn’t take advantage of me. And I don’t think there’s a problem here?”

“I will call you when I am free. I want to see you tonight, ok?”

“Of course. I always have time for you!”

“And, just so you know. Right now? Looking at you. I don’t know why I ever thought there was someone else out there for me to find.”. He turned on his heels and dashed out the door. Leaving her wondering, "Was it enough?"

Are you ever left wondering if it's enough for you?

Stroke Can Happen At Any Age​
Posted:Mar 10, 2019 6:08 am
Last Updated:Apr 4, 2019 8:08 pm
No - not the kind you might be thinking of given this is a sex site.
The recent shocking death of 52-year-old Luke Perry, who starred in "Beverly Hills 90210" and "Riverdale," has many people talking about stroke risk factors and warning signs. Did you know, there are risk of stroke at any age?

From the Heart and Stroke Foundation of Canada, here's what you need to know:

What is a stroke?
A stroke is a sudden loss of brain function caused by a sudden brain blood vessel blockage (ischemic stroke) or rupture (hemorrhagic stroke). Ischemic stroke is the most common type of stroke. Stroke can happen at any age, so know the signs and know what it looks like.

Who is affected?
In Canada, about 741,800 adults aged 20+ live with the effects of a stroke (2012/13), 365,000 men and 376,800 women. One-quarter of Canadians living with stroke are under age 65 . Stroke prevalence rises sharply after age 55

What are the risks?
High blood pressure is the strongest risk factor for a stroke. Other risk factors include smoking, obesity, diabetes, high blood cholesterol, and atrial fibrillation (Afib)

How to prevent a stroke
>Keep blood pressure under control
>Maintain a healthy diet
>Be physically active
>Quit smoking

Every minute counts in a stroke emergency!
Survival and full recovery are possible if one acts… FAST

Learn the signs of a stroke
FACE - is it drooping?
ARMS - can you raise both?
SPEECH - is it slurred or jumbled?
TIME - to call 9-1-1 right away.
Act FAST because the quicker you act, the more of the per you save.

Has a friend or relative had a stroke?
Sex: Dispelling Some Myths
Posted:Mar 2, 2019 9:29 am
Last Updated:Jun 29, 2019 1:49 pm

Thanks to porn, sex hook-up sites and 'urban myths', sexual misinformation can abound. Here's some factual information that may surprise you.

Women Get Erections Too
Women actually get erections in their genitals and even though they’re smaller than the male counterpart, they are just as important, says Sadie Alli, DHS, a sexologist, founder of Tickle Kitty and author of Tickle His Pickle–Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing. “The clitoris is made up of the same spongy erectile tissue as the penis, which expands and engorges with blood when aroused,” she explains. “You can observe this—just look at your clitoris or touch it when you’re aroused and it will be bigger.”

A Headache Doesn't Lessen Everyone's Mood
Contrary to the popular cliché, “Not tonight, I have a headache,” one study found that not all headache sufferers avoid sexual activity. In fact, migraine sufferers reported higher levels of sexual desire according to the research done by the Wake Forest University School of Medicine and colleagues. Why? “Our study suggests that sexual desire and migraine headaches may be influenced by the same brain chemical,” said Timothy Houle, Ph.D., lead author and research assistant professor of anesthesiology.

The Clitoris Is Way Bigger Than You Think It Is
In addition to the part of the clitoris you can see, there’s a much larger part—called the clitoral urethral vaginal complex—underneath the skin that also engorges with arousal, says Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator and sex coach and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships. When a woman is aroused, the vaginal canal also lengthens as the uterus is pulled further upward into the body, the angle often changing as well. “Not only is this fascinating, but it’s one of the reas that waiting for full arousal means having more pleasurable sex; sex is best when your body is ready,” she says.

The G spot Exists. Except It Doesn’t.
“G spot is a misnomer, as what we consider the ‘spot’ isn’t a discrete anatomical entity. Instead, it’s an area of the urethral sponge that is highly sensitive for many people. But bodies and arousal are complex, and there’s no sure-fire technique, or even erogenous zone, that works for everyone. So basically you may have a spot you identify as the G spot—but it isn’t a spot and it won’t work the same for every woman

A Big Penis Won’t “stretch out” A Vagina
A weirdly popular myth is that having too much sex or having sex with a large partner or toy can stretch out a woman’s vagina and/or labia. The vaginal canal is a muscle and does not permanently stretch from having accommodated a large penis or toy. The vagina is incredibly resilient and bounces back quickly. Also, the shape and size of the labia are unique to each woman and are not indicative of her sexual status or history

Penis Girth Is More Important Than Length
Many men like to compare the length of their penises but the only people who really care about that number are… other men. The vagina mainly is covered in stretch mechanoreceptors, which means that girth (or width) is a more important aspect of the penis for women, on average,” explains Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual physiology researcher at the University of California, Los Angeles, and licensed psychologist.

More Thrusting Does Not Equal More Fun
Forget what you see in porn, “pounding”, or fast, hard thrusting, doesn’t turn most women on and it can actually cause pain and injury. The most common place women experience pain during sex is in the vulvar vestibule, just under the opening to the vagina, where a thin skin stretches underneath the opening that is very vulnerable to abrasion and tearing. This is why generally women do not benefit from (or want) prolonged ‘pounding,’ which just drags the penis repeatedly across this area, creating painful friction fairly quickly.

A Cucumber Is Not A Sex Toy
Silicone, steel, Pyrex, glass, or specially laminated wood are the only materials that are actually safe for use inside your body. Toys made with vinyl, latex or a combination of these with other plastics (for example, a silicone-jelly mix) are not considered to be safe for skin contact and should only be used with a condom.

Yes, You Can Break A Penis
Getting a penile fracture is a real thing that can and does happen. It’s relatively rare but it’s worth talking about as there are things you can do to protect against this injury. The highest risk of fractures to the penis occurs when the couple changes position while the erect penis is still inside the vagina. If you are interested in changing position, fully withdraw the penis from the vagina first. Extremely aggressive pumping can also sometimes lead to a penis fracture.
*Update: Everyone knows a penis doesn’t have any bones. According to the Mayo Clinic: a penis fracture can occur when there is trauma to an erect penis. During an erection, the penis is engorged with blood. If an engorged penis is bent suddenly or forcefully, the trauma can rupture the lining of one of the two cylinders in the penis (corpus cavernosum) responsible for erections — resulting in a penis fracture. The trauma most often occurs after accidental injury during intercourse, but can also occur due to aggressive masturbation or taqaandan, a cultural practice in which the top of an erect penis is forcefully bent.

Sex Can Be Enjoyed Without Having An Orgasm
“The idea that sex must lead to orgasm can be a very damaging thought for people of all genders and sexualities as it puts undue pressure on them and can cause anxiety—the two enemies of sexual pleasure,” says Melissa Coats, a licensed professional counsellor specializing in sex therapy. “Sex is meant to be pleasurable but there are many ways to find pleasure in sexual contact without orgasm.” Taking the pressure off yourself to always climax can lead to a more relaxed and positive experience.

Any 'facts' you would like to share or myths you would like to dispel? ? Did you learn something new?
So You Think You Can Spell?
Posted:Feb 28, 2019 12:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2019 5:43 pm
I have always prided myself on being a good speller. This skill was developed at a young age through my love of reading and crossword puzzles. It's always interesting to come across words in the English language that seem like they should be spelled differently because the correct way just doesn't look right.

According to Reader's Digest, here are some of the hardest words to spell. See if you have been spelling them correctly.

With only six letters, “dilate” really shouldn’t be hard to spell, but the way people usually pronounce it can throw spellers for a loop. Many people say “dilate” as three full syllables, “di-a-late,” leading themselves and others to add in an extra “a” while spelling it. But let’s put this easy misunderstanding to rest—there’s no such word as “dialate”

With “indict” popping up as a buzzword in today’s political climate, for better or worse, many people find themselves doing a double take when they see it written out. Though the word is pronounced “indite,” it has a “c” in it! The legal term, whose first use dates back to around 1620, is a Latin variation on an earlier word that was spelled “indite.” To make things even more confusing, “indite” is actually still a word; it means to write or compose.

Nope, it’s not “mini-scule,” no matter how much logic would suggest. It bears no linguistic relation to “mini” or “miniature” but actually comes from the Latin minus, meaning “less.”

Words with double letters are already going to be confusing; knowing which letters you double in words like “necessary,” “embarrassing,” and “millennium” is no small feat. “Accommodate” in particular can be tricky to remember since it follows a different rule from “recommend,” another word where the c’s and m’s can be sources of confusion. While “recommend” only has one “c,” “accommodate” has two of both conants. Not to mention, “accommodate”‘s second “o” doesn’t really make an “o” sound; you could certainly see an “a” or an “e” going in that spot, no problem.

“Conscious” and “conscience” are tricky enough to spell. Take the first eight letters of “conscience,” pronounce them differently, and add another “sh” sound created by different letters, and you’ve got a doozy of a word for “moral and principled.”

This is simply a word where if you know it, you know it. Looking quickly at this word, which means “comply or agree without question,” you might not think that that first “c” needs to be there; it isn’t in words like “aquatic” or “aquiver.” You may also be tempted to throw a double “s” on the end in lieu of the “sc,” or just write the “s” with no “c.”

These poor Bornean primates are the subject of much linguistic confusion. According to Merriam-Webster, their name is the amalgamation of two words in the Malay pidgin language: “orang” for “man” and “hutan” for “forest.” But many people prefer pronouncing an anglicized version that adds another “g” to the end, making the word perplexing for spellers. As if that weren’t confusing enough, some variations on the spelling hyphenate the word and/or add an “o” before the “u,” creating “orang-outan.”

There’s a rea many meat packages spell it “baloney.” The word “bologna” derives from Bologna, Italy, since a similar (but fancier) type of sausage comes from that city. If you want to mimic this fanciness, that “-gn” at the end should be pronounced with a “yuh” sound. But the Americanized, more phonetic spelling seems to better suit thin slabs of Oscar Mayer.

Did you find any surprises? Do you like to do crossword puzzles?
Sexual Fantasies of Men and Women
Posted:Feb 24, 2019 11:10 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2019 12:19 pm
Sexual fantasies are 'normal' to have. Most adults have them and yes there are differences in what women and men fantasize about.

Brett Kahr, a British psychothe and author of Who’s Been Sleeping In Your Head? analyzed the sexual fantasies of more than 20,000 British and American adults. His study revealed that many people fantasize as a way to lift their spirits, and a means of exploring sexual activities they can't achieve in real life.

One stat that really stood out is that about 90 percent of adults fantasize about someone other than the per they’re having sex with and for a substantial amount of time.

Here are some other interesting findings:
>41 percent imagine sex with someone else’s partner (75 percent of people think this one trait makes you more attractive)
>39 percent think about sex with a work colleague
>25 percent (particularly men and younger people) fantasize about celebrities
>18 percent of women fantasize about sex with two or more men

A team of scientists at the University of Montreal explored some of the differences between the sexual fantasies men have compared to women. The scientists polled 1,517 adults about their sexual fantasies and published the findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,
>Women were found to fantasize more about having sex in a specific location or with a stranger
>Men fantasized more about anal sex and receiving oral sex.
>Both men and women were about equal when it came to fantasizing about participating in group sex.

The conclusion of the experts? Having a strong sexual fantasy life can actually enhance your romantic relationship rather than weaken it.

Do you agree with the experts? Should fantasies be discussed with your partner?

Choosing A Fling or a Relationship?
Posted:Feb 20, 2019 8:55 pm
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2019 7:31 am
He picked up her wine glass and filled it partway.

She accepted the glass from him, took a sip and then set it down. “We need to talk.”

“Really? About what?” he asked.

“About this,” she replied. She felt impatient with her own inability to express herself, even her own discomfort.

“What about it?” he cocked his head, his tone gentle, not challenging.

“I thought we were friends, colleagues. Are we starting something here? Are we trying to have some kind of relationship?” she implored. She could barely catch her breath yet had to continue, “You already said you don’t like to compromise. Well I don’t either. We aren’t s anymore. Life is complicated. We can’t pretend that everything is easy.”

“I hear you,” he commented as he sipped his wine. “We are adults. We have jobs and responsibilities.”

She threw her hands up in frustration. “What are we doing here, really? What are you looking for? Seems the only thing that makes sense is a fling. Is that what you want…a fling?”

“No,” he answered quietly while setting down his wine glass. ”I don’t want a fling.”

“Then what? Just exactly what do you want?” she asked impatiently.

“Something real. Something serious. Something that lasts,” he responded very deliberately.

She sat still, barely able to breathe. It was just the answer she wanted and yet the one she feared the most. “I want the same thing,” she forced herself to say aloud although it wasn’t easy to be so vulnerable. “I am not looking for a fling or a one-night stand either. Those just aren’t worth the time or trouble.”

“I agree, they aren’t," he nodded.

“But what about the issue of compromising? Neither of us wants that.”

“I don’t have all the answers right now. I’m trying to figure this out. I didn’t know I wanted anything like this. At least, not until I met you.” His dark eyes looked deep into hers. “If you really want to know what I want, it’s a chance with you.”

“But you don’t even know me,” she stammered.

“What I know so far, I really like. I like how honest you are. I like how smart you are. I like that you are sexy. I like your passion about things other than yourself.”

He leaned over, staring at her through the candlelight, taking her soft hand in his. “I don’t expect this to be easy. You are not easy. But I think there is something unmistakable between us,”

She blinked in disbelief.

“Why not take a chance, on us?”

She knew then, that this was exactly what she wanted.

What are their chances of making it work?

Food: Facts or Fiction?
Posted:Feb 20, 2019 11:29 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2019 2:08 pm
When it comes to eating, we have all heard sayings about what you should or shouldn't eat. Turns out some of those 'wives tales' are actually based in fact. Here's a few that may sound familiar that were recently featured in Reader's Digest:

An Apple A Day Keeps The Doctor Away
Researchers from the University of Oxford estimate that if every adult over 50 ate an apple a day, it could prevent or delay approximately 8,500 vascular deaths from heart attacks and strokes every year in the U.K. Scientists at Cornell also found that eating apples—thanks to their healthy substances like flavonoids and antioxidants—could inhibit the development of breast cancer.

Eating Late At Night Will Make You Gain Weight
Late-night eaters tend to weigh more and have a higher BMI than those who eat earlier in the day, but not because food somehow triples in calories after p.m. One issue is that is has more todo with the food choices late night snackers make. at night. For example, late-night eaters tend to binge-eat more frequently and consume more calories. Some researchers also theorize that eating at night can disrupt your circadian rhythms and your body’s ability to regulate blood levels, and yet still others have found that daytime eating better regulates the hunger hormones ghrelin and leptin, making you more likely to feel full at the end of the day and less likely to overindulge.

Going Outside Without A Coat Will Make You Sick
You need to be exposed to a germ to get sick, however, you may be more susceptible to that germ when you’re shivering. One study, published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, showed that immune cells in your nose and upper airway may not function as well in cooler temperatures. Plus, viruses can become more virulent in the cold, because cold weather makes the outer membrane of the flu virus solidify, so the germ becomes more durable and easier to transmit. Once it enters your respiratory tract, the gel coating liquefies and the virus is ready to wreak havoc on your body.

Sitting Too Close To The TV Is Bad For Your Eyes
Actually, this is partially a myth: Sitting close to the TV seems to be relatively safe, research suggests, with the only potential risks being eye strain and fatigue. But staring at your smartphone—might cause some serious damage. Researchers from the University of Toledo found that the blue light from a smartphone or computer could harm the retina, as well as speed up blindness in patients with macular degeneration. Other scientists worry about ren, in particular: One study found that who spent seven or more hours week using computers or playing mobile video games tripled their risk of developing nearsightedness (myopia), while another discovered that ren who held their phones eight to inches from their eyes for prolonged periods of time were a greater risk for temporary convergent strabismus, aka going cross-eyed.

Heartburn During Pregnancy Means Your Baby Will Be Born With A Full Head of Hair
A John Hopkins University study found that women who suffered from moderate to severe heartburn did indeed give birth to babies with luxurious locks. On the flip side, the babies whose mothers didn’t experience heartburn had little or no hair. The connection isn’t completely clear; the researchers theorize that extra- levels of estrogen and other pregnancy hormones may both encourage fetal hair growth and relax the sphincter the top of the esophagus, allowing acidic digestive fluids to back up and trigger heartburn symptoms.

Eating Cheese Before Bedtime Causes Strange Dreams
That was the surprising finding of a study from the British Cheese Board, which further revealed that different cheeses gave subjects different types of dreams. For example, 85 percent of the women who ate Stilton had crazy, vivid dreams, while 60 percent of participants who snacked on Red Leicester dreamed about their hoods. This may have something to do with the tryptophan in milk, which encourages sleep and reduces stress levels. Men’s Health theorizes that people with some degree of lactose intolerance may suffer from sleep disruption and, as a result, bad dreams.

Carrots Are Good For Your Eyes
While carrots won’t improve your vision, research suggests that they can help maintain it. The rea is beta carotene, a carotenoid (or pigment) that the body converts to vitamin A. Your body uses vitamin A to build proteins for eye cells; if you have too little of it, you might even suffer from night blindness. Furthermore, a study published in JAMA Ophthalmology found that people who ate levels of carotenoids had a 40 percent lower risk of developing advanced macular degeneration, the most common cause of -related blindness. And for the record, it’s not just carrots: Sweet potatoes and orange peppers, as well as dark, leafy greens like spinach and kale are also rich in carotenoids.

What are some of the food myths that you found are actually true?
Foods to Boost Your Sex Life
Posted:Feb 14, 2019 4:06 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2019 5:53 pm
Studies have shown that having sex more often is beneficial to your health. Eating vitamin and protein-rich foods also boost your libido. Here are what are considered to be some of the best food aphrodisiacs.

Dark Chocolate
Fruits and vegetables that are high in antioxidants should already be a part of your daily diet. Dark chocolate is full of antioxidants which have been linked to reducing signs of aging and the risk for cervical cancer, as well as enhancing sexual pleasure.

Brazil Nuts
These tasty nuts contain selenium, a nutrient that can cut the risk of prostate cancer in men. In addition, selenium stimulates the production of healthy ova and sperm.

This seafood is rich in zinc, which is known for increasing libido and the production of sperm cells. For men trying to have ren, this is a great way to get in the mood and increase the chances of insemination.

This fibrous vegetable is one of the best ways to improve your sex life, as it can increase a woman’s sexual desire. It also contains androsterone, a hormone men release that appeals to women.

Vitamin C is known to help increase both libido and fertility. Kiwis are loaded with Vitamin C.

Leafy green vegetables, like spinach, contain lots of folic acid, which can help increase fertility and your libido.

High in an ingredient called allicin, garlic can help stimulate circulation and blood flow to sexual organs in both men and women.

Strawberries help increase sex drive in both men and women. When topped with dark chocolate, a libido-enhancer in itself, it becomes a delicious treat sure to get you and your partner in the mood.

Chili Peppers
These are considered natural aphrodisiac foods and a symbol of love. They stimulate endorphins (the brain’s feel-good chemicals), speed up heart rate and make you sweat, which all mimic how you feel when you’re aroused.

With its phallic shape, bananas already look like a feel-good food, but these aphrodisiac foods also contain bromelain, an enzyme which triggers testosterone production, and the fruit’s potassium and vitamin B elevate energy levels.

What foods are your favourite aphrodisiacs?

A Kiss That Broke Her Rules #50
Posted:Feb 13, 2019 7:30 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2019 12:45 am
The rush of desire caught her by surprise. She should have been prepared. She had, after all, kissed him on one other occasion That time, he had been in charge, deciding what she needed and just how far things should be allowed to go.

Tonight was different. She was in control. She took fistfuls of his t-shirt in both hands and wrenched her mouth away from his. “Last time we stopped because you claimed you didn’t think I knew what I was doing,” she said. “Tonight you can’t use that excuse. Do you understand?” she asked him.

“It wasn’t an excuse,” he replied.

“It was as far as I’m concerned. So, one more thing you need to know…if you want to stop tonight, you are going to have to flat-out tell me you don’t want me, No more pretending you are trying to do what’s right for me. Got that?” she demanded.

He looked at her annoyed, “Damn woman. Do you always talk this much before you get into bed?” He didn’t wait for a response. He captured her mouth in a kiss that told her all she needed to know. This time he would not be calling a halt. Only she could stop this and he knew that was the last thing she wanted to do.

She wound her arms around his neck and opened her mouth to him. There was nothing practiced or deliberately seductive about the kiss because the simple truth was, that she had never kissed anyone else this way – with such excitement and need and anticipation.

This was a kiss that crossed all the lines that she had drawn for herself – a kiss that pushed back her peral boundaries in ways she had never imagined possible – it was a kiss that broke the rules.

His response lacked the artistry and finesse of a skilled lover. It was raw and told her more clearly than words ever could, that tonight was different for him, too. It was rea enough to break the rules.

They fumbled their way to the bed. By the time they had reached it, she was unnerved and shivering and taking in oxygen as though it were a rare and fleeting commodity.

He released her long enough to get out of his t-shirt, pants and briefs. When he turned back to face her, she sensed his subtle hesitation and knew that he was waiting for her to reaffirm her decision. It also dawned on her that she was not the only one in the room who was in unchartered territory. He needed to know that she still wanted him now that he stood naked before her.

She moved closer and once again stood on tiptoe to kiss him. His rigid erection pushed against her thigh. She reached down and took him gently in her hand.

He groaned and pulled her closer. She realized they were about to fall together onto the tumbled sheets. Panic flared for an instant. She opened her mouth to tell him that she had to be on top.

But there were no need for explanations. He landed flat on his back and steered her descent so that she landed on top of him, exactly where she wanted to be. He handled her as if she was the most valuable, amazing, exquisite creature that he had ever encountered.

She raised her head briefly to look down at him. “It’s all right. I won’t shatter,” she said.

“I know that. You are strong.” He wrapped one big hand around the back of her head and drew her mouth down to his. “But I sure as hell will shatter into a million little pieces if I screw this up.”

“But you are not screwing it up,” she whispered.

His free hand moved down her body to her thigh and then he was tugging the hem of her nightgown upward, crushing the soft fabric against her waist. His fingers sank into the curve of her buttocks and then he began to explore her even more intimately.

She took a quick, sharp breath when she felt his fingers on the inside of her leg. He went utterly still beneath her. When she opened her eyes partway, she saw that he was watching; her with an intensity that told her how hard he was working to maintain his control.

She kissed his throat and then his chest and she reached down and stroked him trying to tell him without words that she liked his touch. No, she craved his touch. She did not want any other man to touch her ever again….just him.

His hips moved against her, encouraging her to part her legs for him, When she did, he touched her more deeply still and her reaction stunned her. A great urgency tightened her insides.

“Yes,” she whispered. “Yes. Now.”

But he continued to stroke her like she was a fragile flower. He did not seem to realize that she needed more…so much more.

She pushed herself up so she could ride him astride. He groaned when she guided him slowly, carefully into her. His fingers griped her thighs. He watched her as though at that moment she was the only thing that mattered in his world.

He groaned. His jaw was rigid as the rest of him. He pushed upward, slowly, deliberately filling her, completely astonishing her.

He added one more element to the mix of sensations. He moved his thumb against her clitoris and with that she was lost. The waves of a release, unlike anything she had ever experienced, crashed through her and she was breathless.

He surged upward one last time. Going impossibly deep. His climax thundered through him. A low husky roar of satisfaction ripped through him.

She had caused his reaction. She realized she had fully and completely satisfied this man. And he had given her something even more. Tonight, for the first time, she had responded in a way that, until now, she had even believed possible – a way that felt real, normal.

All she had needed was the right man – and he was anything but normal.

When did you have a kiss ' that broke the rules'?

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